Twin flames, soul mates, and karmic connections – are you wondering if your twin flame really exists? And if so, how long will it be before you unite? There are many different types of soul connections for us on this planet, however often those who have experienced a twin flame connection begin to doubt their sanity and ask questions such as:
- Are twin flames real, or am I losing my mind?
- Is my twin flame the other half of my soul?
- Am I meant to be with my twin flame?
This article will answer the above questions and more; revealing the truth behind twin flames.
What does it mean to be a twin flame?
A twin flame is ‘two halves of one soul’ who incarnate here on earth in two separate bodies and are destined to fall in love. These individuals are usually intensely connected to their twin flame through shared life stories, history, and sometimes trauma.
People who believe to have experienced a twin flame connection report the following about meeting their twin flame:
- They felt that they recognized their soul instantly when they first met.
- They are psychically connected through dreams and strange synchronicities.
- There is a push and pull element to the relationship, often with a runner and a chaser.
- The relationship is very intense and tumultuous.
- They trigger each other’s deepest core wounds.
- They keep coming back together time and time again.
Are Twin Flame Relationships Real?
Thousands of people say they have experienced the intense joy of finding their Twin Flame in a relationship and report encountering someone who ‘mirrors their soul.’ Therefore, it appears that twin flames really do exist. The real question is if you have a Twin Flame.
On a personal level, I also believe this to be true, having experienced the existential bliss, heart-breaking turmoil, and exponential growth after seven years of back and forth with my twin flame.
It is thought that there are seven stages when it comes to a twin flame’ union’, with stage two being outlined as the ‘awakening’ phase. This was most definitely true in my personal experience; meeting my twin flame was the start of my spiritual awakening – the catalyst into my new reality.
Moreover, I have received personal accounts from friends and acquaintances who have lived through the above. They have also questioned their sanity; feeling absolute unconditional, heart-shaking love for their twin flame, yet find themselves unable to maintain a healthy, balanced, long-term relationship because of the triggers and fears that are constantly shaken to the surface with this kind of love.
Elle Hari, creator of the Podcast’ Twin Flame Truth‘ suggests that ‘twin flames share energetic fields’ and that ‘it only takes one twin soul to balance out our fear-based energies, because we are one soul.’
It appears that many other Twin Flame experts also believe this to be true. And whilst Elle beautifully explains that the push and pull polarity between twin flames is the ‘collapsing of duality’ between ‘the illusion of separation in our physical worlds,’ the fact that you are two halves of one soul may not be completely true. As breath-taking as it may seem to have the other half of your soul ‘searching’ for you, the concept that you share one soul may ultimately be flawed.
LEARN MORE: Check out this article if you are wondering why Twin Flame Relationships are so hard.
Is my twin flame the other half of my soul?
Yes, twin flames do exist. But, is your twin flame the other half of your soul?
Teal Swan, international speaker, and the best-selling author suggest that a ‘soul is a stream of consciousness that cannot be cut in half.’ She uses the ocean as a metaphor for universal consciousness and breaks this down into rivers and creeks.
Teal suggests that our soul families are people who are in ‘our river’ and those individuals who we feel an instant, intense connection with our simply universal consciousness close to us in our soul ‘creeks.’
Therefore, she suggests that in essence ‘your soul could be reincarnated here on earth as multiple beings at once.’ So, where does that leave twin flames?
Most twin flame experts agree that if you are out of alignment with your soul or living in fear-based energy, you will not contact your twin flame.
I have experienced this on a personal level time and time again; contacting my twin flame through fear and anxiety, desperately wanting to build a relationship with him, knowing all too well that this would only make him run the other way.
On the other hand, when I let go of control and surrendered to love – he returned.
I remember five grueling months of longing for my twin flame to contact me, whilst watching them engage in another romantic relationship on the physical plane. It was excruciating to watch at first, but I had learned enough about the twin flame journey by that point and decided to let go and step back into love, trust, and faith. I knew that if we were meant to be together, then we would be.
After five months, I started hearing his name everywhere, I started seeing his name on number plates, and I started bumping into his family over and over again. I knew he was coming back to me, and he did. And this wasn’t the first time this had happened – through the path of love. We had yet another brief yet beautiful few weeks of falling into the slipstream of love before we got triggered, which completely obliterated our souls apart from each other again.
After seven years of immense growth, intense love, and emotional turmoil, I knew that twin flames existed. That was a fact. However, I also began to experience deep soul connections with other beautiful human beings.
Okay, they weren’t as fiery, feisty, and intensely charged as the relationship with my twin flame, but they were deep, they were honest, and they too were magnetic. This was when I started to question the concept of us having ‘one soul’ that was ‘split in half.’ I was presented with new possibilities, and the more work I did on myself, the more satisfying these encounters became.
For years I had prayed to be in divine union with my twin flame, all I had wanted was for us to reunite and live happily ever after. However, the last step I took away from my twin flame was my first step towards self-love. After our final big blowout, I knew that we could not put each other through it again – I knew that we were not meant to be together in this lifetime.
I stopped praying to be in union with my twin flame and instead prayed for the strength and courage to fall into the path of love.
I began channeling my time, energy, and commitment away from my twin flame and towards self-growth, acceptance, and self-love. My twin flame showed me my deepest, darkest wounds; my impulsions, fears, doubts, judgment, flaws, raw love, and explosive reactions – for which I am eternally grateful. However, his back and forth and push and pull also taught me how to step into the slipstream of love, which has enabled me to trust the Universe and create the beautiful life that I lead today.
Am I meant to be with my twin flame?
Four years ago, I made the conscious decision that I did not want to be in union with my twin flame. It was too hard, too triggering, and too emotionally overwhelming for everyone involved; even my closest friends and family couldn’t cope with me speaking about our relationship anymore.
Shortly after our final goodbye, my twin flame fell into a happy, thriving long-term relationship.
And I, for the first time, began to fall in love with myself.
Here I am today, empowered by my own choices and the knowledge that we have many ‘slipstreams’ and versions of reality to fall into in life.
The fact is, there are many beautiful, magnetic souls out there, ready to jump into the slipstream of love with you. Currently, I am blessed in a happy, committed, and loving soul mate relationship where I receive fire, soul expansive growth, and unconditional love – without the constant chase and emotional turmoil. I have spoken to Acquaintances who have said that they too eventually decided to cut ties with their twin flame even though they have heard of others making twin flame relationships work.
In Conclusion
It appears that, yes, twin flames really do exist. But whether we choose them as our life partner is another matter.
Some suggest that twin flames travel through lifetime after a lifetime together, until they finally unite and leave the physical plane. Whether we want to be in union with our twin flame or soul mate, there is one resounding truth…
To be in union with your twin flame or soul mate, you must shift closer into alignment with your soul. You must bridge the gap between separation and unity and become love, no matter what happens in your external world. You must begin to show yourself unconditional love and appreciation, even if that means walking away from your ‘twin flame’ or ‘soulmate.’ You must trust that what you desire will always gravitate back to you – that what your heart desires is yours.
‘If it is a desire of yours to have a soul mate or a twin flame, it means you have one.’ – Teal Swan
You simply have to choose which one.
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