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Use this simple One Card Reading to help you gain a deeper understanding of your emotional and psychological state. Click the card to turn it over. Cards from the Masculine Archetype Deck.
The Romantic gains pleasure by making others feel special. He desires to share intimacy and connection. This inspires him to share acts of kindness and tokens of affection. He uses his imagination to bring excitement to the world.
The Romantic invests his creative energy into making others feel desired. He uses the sensual tools of poetry, gifts, wine, and touch.
The Romantic must be careful not to use his charm for manipulation.
A gift given with expectations is no longer a gift. There is also a big difference between romance and coercion. When working with the Romantic Archetype, make sure there is an undercurrent of respect and mutual empowerment in your actions.
Romantic energy doesn’t just have to be towards a Lover. Writing love letters to your siblings, having a solo cup of tea, or sharing dinner with friends are all ways you can cultivate Romance in your life.
When working with the Romantic Archetype, look to how you can cultivate relationships with integrity.
This Three-Card Spread can add more dimensions to your card reading. One card points you in the general direction, while three gives you a more detailed map.
Try one of the following options for the spread:
The Coward is a slave to his fear. He believes he’s not good enough to achieve his goals and cannot (or will not) change. As a result, he will not stand up for himself or others.
Whatever show he may put on for the outside world, despite the skills and prowess he may possess, his every action is geared toward keeping his insecurities from becoming discovered. He hides them rather than face them openly. The Coward could be a CEO that hides behind his busy schedule instead of facing his problems with intimacy. Or an artist that seeks other people’s praise instead of following his real creative desire. Underneath the Coward’s actions is still a frightened child that needs protection and reassurance from others instead of from within.
The Shadow Aspects of the Coward can come out in lies, denial, and being passive-aggressive. In modern society, we see this Archetype most often within relationships. Be it romantic relationships, friends, or work, avoiding conflict won’t help in the long run.
To change, the Coward must practice courage by looking at how he relates to his emotions. He must stop looking at his fear, embarrassment, and anxiety as barriers and instead persevere despite them. Courage doesn’t mean you have no fear. It means you rise to meet its challenge.
If you struggle with the Coward Archetype, focus on facing fears and cultivating confidence. Look at what past hurts have become barriers to you seeing your worth.
A Deadbeat runs away from his responsibilities out of fear of losing his freedom or out of a lack of confidence. As a coping mechanism,
he becomes detached and absent. This could mean he isn’t there physically or emotionally.
The Deadbeat must come to terms with the pain his absence causes and the dedication it will take to protect those he loves. He must face his resistance to responsibility and his trauma around abandonment to heal.
When working with the Deadbeat Archetype, look at how you fulfill your responsibilities. If caring for someone else feels like a burden, explore why it feels draining. You cannot blame age, ignorance, or anyone else in the world on your failure to invest in your relationships. It’s on you to accept your responsibility to be present.
When working with this card, ask yourself, is there something holding you back from loving someone else profoundly?
The Know-It-All has attached his self-worth to being seen as intelligent. He will dismiss other opinions to protect his self-image, and he never backs down from an argument. He loses his objective nature and will only look for the information that supports his claims.
The Know-It-All must face his co-dependency to what other people think of him. He must discover where his insecurities come from and why he’s so afraid of looking foolish. If he doesn’t let down his intellectual armor, he will ultimately never connect emotionally with other humans. The Know-It-All will perpetually distance himself in fear that people will see through his insecurities and posturing.
The dangers of the Know-It-All rests in the little things. It’s the white lies that can escalate. To break from this Shadow, look at when you share ideas without research. Look at how you might use intelligence as a social tool instead of pursuing knowledge. It’s in the little conversations that this Shadow takes hold.
Whenever you catch yourself distorting information, break the spell, find the humility to apologize and strive to keep a listening mind.