KEYWORDS: RELIABLE, SUPPORTIVE, GIVING
CHALLENGES: MARTYRDOM, OVERBEARING, ABUSE OF AUTHORITY
TO CULTIVATE: ACTS OF SERVICE, LEAD A GROUP, MENTOR
SUB-ARCHETYPES: LAND STEWARD, MENTOR, PROVIDER, CAREGIVER
SHADOW ASPECTS: CONSTANT RESCUER (+), DEADBEAT (-)
The Father strives to be compassionate, generous, benevolent, and supportive. His selfless love encourages the potential of others. He shares his gifts without the need of payment or recognition. He is an advisor, healer, leader, and provider.
At his core, the Father seeks safety and security for those he loves. He makes personal sacrifices to create a supportive environment. This can sometimes be a lonely and underappreciated role. If the Father expects something for his work, it can lead to resentment and push the Father into the Shadow Aspects of the Deadbeat. If love and support are given without attachment, then the Father Archetype can create deep healing for others.
One of the most challenging tasks for the Father is finding the balance between protection and freedom.
If he overprotects his child, community, or loved ones, it can turn into a dictatorship. But If the Father is too hands-off, his loved ones might not have the structure they need to grow. This can make them feel unsafe, abandoned, or uncared for. Rather than safeguarding people from harm, the Father should try and teach them how to find growth from adversity.
You connect to the Father archetype through nurturing others, yourself, or the world. The Archetype is the supportive voice that wants the best for you. When you draw this card, consider how you support others. What responsibilities are you hiding from? Do you allow loved ones their freedom? How could you be a guide to other’s growth?
KEYWORDS: EARTHY, PRACTICAL, NATURALIST
CHALLENGES: OVERZEALOUS, DETACHING FROM HUMANITY
TO CULTIVATE: GARDEN, CAMP, ADVOCATE FOR THE EARTH, COOK
The Land Steward appreciates the connection between man and nature. His care for the earth is both a spiritual and practical path. He connects to the world through his felt sense of the seasons and the rhythms of nature.
The Land Steward’s tends to the earth, shares in conscious foods, and campaigning to preserve our world’s natural beauty. His dedication not only protects but also heals the land.
You connect with the Land Stewart Archetype when you expand your thinking to include the land around you. It asks you to think about the larger natural cycles — such as planting trees for your children to enjoy, protecting waters for future generations, and building things that will last.
When you draw the Land Steward, consider your influence on the world. What environmental impact will you leave behind? How do you cultivate a relationship with the natural world? To connect with the Land Steward archetype, take a moment to appreciate the ever-abundant nature of the lands you occupy.
KEYWORDS: ADVISOR, GUIDE, ROLE MODEL
CHALLENGES: CRITICAL, POMPOUS, SHOW OFF
TO CULTIVATE: TAKE ON AN APPRENTICE, BECOME A STUDENT
The Mentor artfully guides others to knowledge. He takes interest and pleasure in helping others realize their potential. He doesn’t just throw information at a student, but he creates a safe place for them to explore.
A sincere Mentor can profoundly affect a child, co-worker, or loved one. He can become a source of wisdom, teaching, and support. The Mentor provides a guiding light as a role model. Giving the student an example of the type of person they can become.
The Mentor must not lecture to prove his expertise or try to use the student to fulfill a goal they could never reach. If in alignment with their highest purpose, the Mentor can gift the world with a knowledge that will pass down the ages.
When the Mentor card appears, look at how you are supporting others in their growth. Are you passing your skills on to others? Do you strive to empower the development of your children, community, or friends?
KEYWORDS: SURVIVOR, DEPENDABLE, HARD WORKER
CHALLENGES: RESENTFUL, VICTIMIZING, OVERWORKING
TO CULTIVATE: TAKE ON RESPONSIBILITY, DONATE, VOLUNTEER
The Provider utilizes his skills to aid his family, community and loved ones. He sees this as one of his essential responsibility. He is a loyal and stabilizing force that offers physical safety, and emotional security others can rely on. This allows his loved ones to move beyond survival and find refuge.
The act of giving should come with no reciprocity. If the Provider reminds others of his hard work or holds it against them, it will lead to resentment on both sides. A gift given with expectation will add a slow poison to the relationship.
The Provider energy comes through when you look out for another’s well being. This could be donating to a food charity, cooking meals for a sick neighbor, or fulfilling your financial responsibility as a father.
When you draw the Provider card, look to how you utilize your skills to care for others. Do you give these gifts freely? How could you help others in need?
KEYWORDS: COMPASSIONATE, EMPATHETIC, NURTURING
CHALLENGES: ENABLER, OVERWORKING, GUILT-TRIPPING, CO-DEPENDANT
TO CULTIVATE: COOK FOR OTHERS, HELP THE SICK, BABYSIT
The Caretaker offers physical and emotional support to others. He is moved by compassion and a desire to help, be it friends, strangers, or even foes. The Caregiver generously gives his time to those in need.
If out of balance, the Caregiver can get trapped in a cycle of trying to “fix” everything. He can overwork himself to the point of exhaustion and is prone to martyrdom. The Caregiver’s intentions to help others can sometimes enable lousy behavior in those he cares for. If he gives without any boundaries, he can be taken advantage of and find himself in a codependent relationship. His desire to help others has to be balanced with his self-care.
The Caregiver draws people to himself by his innate altruistic personality. This Archetype can manifest itself in different types of relationships, from caring for your parents, children, lovers, and community. When you draw this card, ask yourself how you care for people in your life. Do you take the time to nature others? If you do, how do you find a balance between sacrifice and self-care?
(+) SHADOW ASPECT OF THE FATHER
KEYWORDS: OVERBEARING, MICROMANAGER, STRICT
TO BRING TO BALANCE: LET GO, OFFERING FREEDOM, TRUST
The Constant Rescuer wishes to protect his loved ones by micromanaging every detail. This can prevent them from learning how to handle stress, deny autonomy, and disrupt their self-confidence.
It takes courage to let a loved one experience pain or failure. In the long run, protecting someone from everything is unrealistic. The Constant Rescuer must stop preventing anything uncomfortable from happening and instead teach how to work through it when it arises.
To break from the Constant Rescuer’s shadow, look at how you could release your need for control, and allow others to find their autonomy. Maybe you were abandoned as a child and want no one else to go through that pain. Or perhaps you want to be needed so badly that you try to prove your worth by saving others. Try and uncover the past patterns that make you tighten your grasp.
You must learn to balance your desire to protect with the other’s right for independence. Letting your loved ones fail and discover their own lessons can hard, but it will give them emotional resilience.
(-) SHADOW ASPECT OF THE FATHER
KEYWORDS: ABSENT, DISTANT, IRRESPONSIBLE
TO BRING TO BALANCE: BUILD CONFIDENCE, VOLUNTEER, SHOW VULNERABILITY
A Deadbeat runs away from his responsibilities out of fear of losing his freedom or out of a lack of confidence. As a coping mechanism, he becomes detached and absent. This could mean he isn’t there physically or emotionally.
He must come to terms with the pain his absence causes and the dedication it will take to protect those he loves. He must face his resistance to responsibility and his trauma around abandonment to heal.
When working with the Deadbeat Archetype, look at how you fulfill your responsibilities. If caring for someone else feels like a burden, explore why it feels draining. You cannot blame age, ignorance, or anyone else in the world on your failure to invest in your relationships. It’s on you to accept your responsibility to be present.
When working with this card, ask yourself, is there something holding you back from loving someone else profoundly?