Seven years ago, I made a decision that changed my life. I said NO.
In my mid 20s I was in a band with a woman I loved. It was that kind of love that was passionate to the point of heartbreaking. We had a very confusing long-distance relationship and some tumultuous times. That On-again, off-again thing.
There was also a lot of angst in our relationship. I really wanted to make it work but at the same time… I didn’t know how to. Some drama happened and our relationship came to a breaking point. I basically had to be all in and marrying her, or the band would fall apart. But… something wasn’t right. I had this fire in my chest telling me to run away, while another voice was whispering for me to stay.
Then it hit me…
I didn’t know why I was attracted to her. I didn’t know what I wanted from a relationship. My mind was flooded with questions of what I was looking for in a partner.
I had never taken the time to understand my desires.
What was I looking for?
Why her?
A few moments later, we broke up for good. It caused a massive fallout and years of grief, but it was one of the most transformational things I had ever done.
But it wasn’t the breakup that changed my life. It’s what I did after.
The systemic shifts came from me dedicating myself to self-discovery. I knew I couldn’t be in a successful relationship until I took the time to contemplate who I am. Since then, I have worked with men’s groups, studied Carl Jung, depth psychology, and found new ways of understanding myself by working with Archetypes. But it all started with me realizing I didn’t know who I am.
Many men I have helped have asked the same big questions I did:
- What is my purpose?
- How do I become a better… Partner, Father, Friend?
- Why do I struggle with intimacy?
- How can I find my passion and be of value in this world?
- How can I be a leader of my own life?
I get it… It’s hard to know how to answer, and you’re not alone.
When I realized I was lost in that past relationship, I didn’t know where to turn. There wasn’t a lot of emotional support and resources out there for me. I was lost trying to unravel the mysteries of my Masculinity and how to step into my potential.
What helped me the most was working with Archetypes. They offer a framework for understanding your true nature. It speaks to the deepest core of who you are.
I have found a lot of books and blog posts on the Archetypes, but they felt so… Theoretical.
But I didn’t know how to put it into practice.
That’s why I created the Masculine Archetype Deck. It’s a physical object you can touch, explore, and interact with. Giving clear representations of the Archetypes and creating an imaginative space for self-discovery. I also created the Awakening the Masculine eBook as a great resource to explore Archetypes. Check it out, and grab it for free.
